Being The Change For Someone Else

February 7, 2020

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We’ve all had moments in our lives when we’ve wanted to reach out and help others, but there are so many ways to do this that you’ve got to pick the right way to go about it. Everyone is dealing with issues, and while some things may work for certain situations, there is no guarantee they will work for others. 

If you know someone, whether a friend, relative or stranger who could do with some assistance, here are some ways you can inspire change and help them overcome their issues, no matter how big or small. 

Don’t Place Blame
One issue a lot of people encounter when trying to help is that they place blame on the other person. They use a lot of ‘You’ phrases as if every bad situation is their fault. 

However, this is not always the case, and while you might understand some problems, you will never know the full picture. Rather than place blame, work with them to figure out the cause of the problem and then go from there. 

Be an Example
Sometimes, you don’t need to offer advice or guidance directly, but instead, you can be an example. If you want to assist someone in losing weight or pursuing their passion, then try to reflect this in your own life. 

You can set an example that can inspire them towards moving forward with their life. If possible, you can even offer to do the same thing as them, so they don’t feel so alone with the transformation. This can help with their confidence and could help them see the results they want sooner than you’d expect. 

Explain Treatment Options
If the issues are more severe, then you can be there for them to work out the different treatment options. If exercise or dieting has not helped with weight loss, you can explain the surgery to them and go with them to the doctor to discuss options. 

Similarly, they may struggle with substance abuse problems, in which case you can suggest an outpatient rehab center rather than shaming them about something that is not entirely their fault to begin with. Suggesting such options in a calm and supportive manner can help them see the benefits more clearly rather than causing conflict. 

Understand That It’s Not Your Decision
It is not up to you to make these changes in the person. They are the only ones responsible for making changes for the better.

Too many people get wrapped up in being the change, and this can lead to frustration and even arguments. It’s good to be there, it’s good to be supportive, but it’s also vital that you do not pressure or get too involved, as this could end with them pushing you away. 

Changing For The Better
It doesn’t feel right to take it upon yourself to change people, but sometimes they need a little nudge in the right direction to help them reach their potential and become their best selves. As long as you are not overbearing or pressurizing, you can help them change without them coming to resent you for trying to help. 

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