the ache to be married

March 24, 2024

“May He give you the desires of your heart and make all of your plans succeed. May we shout for joy… May the Lord grant all of your requests.”
-Psalm 20:4-5-

In this single journey it can seem that we have had to give up so many hopes, dreams, and desires for the present, and if we are honest, we may start to wonder if it will be that way for the future too. The deep longing in our hearts to married cuts to the deep as we literally ache to see our dreams of being married come to pass. 

Right now, as a single woman it can seem like as the days pass, so are our dreams passing us by and it can break our hearts. God promises that if we “take delight in You, You will give us the desires of our hearts”. (Psalm 37:4) I want to delight in the Lord alone but sometimes my desires and dreams for my future seem to loom before me and take my eyes off of Him. In these times I pray that the Lord would give me a heart for Him alone. When the ache to be married overwhelms me, I ask the Lord for comfort. I also pray that He would take my eyes off of marriage and a husband and all that I think I am missing out on because I am single and put them back on Him completely

This is not about losing the desires of our hearts, but instead it is about surrendering to His love and His plans. Let us pray to do this with open hands, not gripping tightly to our dreams, but to the story that He is writing for us. 

“For you Lord are good and what you do is good.”
-Psalm 119:68-

Let it be God's love that we most long for. Let us give our aching hearts to Him, “the Lord is good and your love endures forever.” (Psalm 100:5) Let us trust completely in His goodness, trusting that He has plans for us, giving us the desires of our hearts in His perfect timing. 


  1. I hope that your desire to be married is answered one day or evolves Rebecca. All the best and trust in the Lord.

    1. Thank you Sheena-Kay, That is so incredible sweet of you. Truly trusting the Lord is the most precious thing. He loves and knows us well and guides our hearts. Thank you again for your sweet words! I hope that you are having a wonderful week!