8/9/15

44 tips to have a happy marriage for 44 years



These kiddos above{aka my parents} are celebrating their 46th wedding anniversary today. In today's society that would be classified as amazing, but to this single gal it is not only amazing, it is inspirational, entirely possible, and beautiful to have witnessed such an amazing love story growing up. In honor of their anniversary two years ago I shared "44 tips to have a happy marriage for 44 years" that has remained one of my most popular posts. Today, in honor of their anniversary I wanted to re-share these 44 tips with you about having a marriage that will not only go the distance, but will be a beautiful story that I have learned from them.
1. Have a marriage centered on Jesus. 

2. Laugh. A lot.
3. Realize what is important and let everything else go. 

4. If your marriage is in trouble seek help.

5. Go on dates - at least once a week. (Don't have money for a date? My parents don't either and are constantly being creative with what to do. Look for free events in your area (i.e.- events at a local college, high school, church, etc.), pack a picnic lunch or dinner, go for a walk in a new park that you have not explored, etc.)
6. Be creative.

7. Be intentional.
8. Don't ever go to bed angry.

9. Fight fairly (stick to the subject at hand).

10. Listen. Listen. Listen.

11. Put the other person first. 

12. Always remember that life is found in the little moments. 
13. Never give your spouse the chance to wonder if you are cheating. 

14. Do not ever let pornography become a substance in your house. 

15. Never let children divide you and never speak ill of your spouse to your children.

16. Never let the "D" word (divorce) be uttered. The minute that you allow that you start down a road that you do not want to go on. 

17. Pray together.
18. Go to church together. 

19. Have Godly friends who you can encourage you along the way. 

20. Recognize that life (and marriage is hard). 
21. Respect Him ladies. 

22. Love her completely gentleman.

23. Celebrate the big moments. 
24. Rejoice with each others successes. 
25. Support each other. 
26. Understand his job. 

27. Love her hearts passions. 

28. Understand security is very important for a woman. 
29. Take time to talk everyday. (Maybe this means shutting off the TV or turning off the internet - do whatever needs to be done to talk everyday!)
30. If you watch TV, watch TV you both enjoy. 

31. Dance in the house
32. Turn off the phone, internet, blackberry, ipad, computer, etc.. 

33. Enjoy each others presence.
34. Kiss often. 

35. Never hang up the phone or leave without saying "I love you".

36. Live life knowing how short it is. 
37. Realize that after you have kids you will still be a couple so don't wait eighteen years to keep falling more in love. 

38. Never stop flirting. 

39. Hold hands whenever possible. 
40. Cook for her, clean up for her, do the wash, etc.- Find something she hates to do and do it for her often without being asked. 

41. Ladies, don't nag. 

42. Find out something he loves to do and encourage it to the fullest. 

43. Cry together, not with your friends, or brushing it off. Face life together. 

44. Remember that life is fleeting and in the end the only thing that matters is love. 
Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad! I love you guys so much!

36 comments:

  1. Aww this is so cute! I know my hubby and I will have a great marriage like that :) it's all about the time and effort you out into making eachother :)


    Nightchayde

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    1. I definitely agree!! Time and Effort are the key to every single relationship!!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  2. This is so precious and such wonderful marriage advice! Your parents are adorable :)

    Ellie
    www.ChoosingPeaceBlog.com

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    1. Aww thank you so much! :) They are truly a blessing to my siblings and I and to everyone who knows them! :) Thank you so much for your comment!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  3. how sweet is this!!! agree with all of this!!! happy anniv to them!

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    1. Thanks sweet friend!! :) You are so sweet!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  4. Love this! Your parents look wonderful. Mine actually celebrated 32 yeas yesterday!

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    1. Happy Anniversary to them!! :)
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  5. This is THE sweetest thing and so inspiring for us girls who are waiting for a love like theirs :) Precious! My parents just celebrated their 30th :) We are blessed daughters!

    PS - friend, I am doing a "links I love" blog post. Can I include your link?? People need to read this!

    XO
    Erin

    www.sweetnessitself.com

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    1. How fun is this sweet friend that when you commented two years ago we were both still waiting and now you are HAPPILY married!! :) AHH LOVE it!!
      :) Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  6. Happy anniversary to your parents! That's so inspiring!

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  7. It's official-your parents are ADORABLE! This made my whole day!!!!!! I love this post so much! What amazing advice! "Dance in the house" may just be my favorite! Happy anniversary to them :)

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    1. Aww you are so sweet Megan!!! I hope that you are doing well!!
      :) Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  8. I seriously enjoyed this post so much!! Thanks for the post!

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    1. Aww thank you so much!!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  9. This is very cute, and the photos just made me happy :) I agree with everything but some of these things are easier said than done as with many things in life. marriage is wonderful but it is hard work, it takes dedication and love and commitment. My hubby and I are best friends, we actually like hanging out and doing things together more than we like going out with other people, we just get along and have fun, I find this so important.

    http://diaryofatrendaholic.blogspot.ca/

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    1. I am not married but I TOTALLY agree with you that marriage is hard work. I think every relationship that we have requires work and commitment in it. Thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  10. Oh my goodness! SO sweet! LOVE THIS!!!!!

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  11. WOW! This is seriously inspirational! I love love love this!! Your parents are seriously adorable:) What beauty!!! ahhhh, give them a hug for me!!! haha, love Katie

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    1. Thanks Katie!! :)
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  12. Beautiful. You have a lot of practical insights here. You are so right with all the 44 points. Loved the pictures. Your parents are fun. You can feel it through the pictures. Great post, and congratulations to your mom and dad.

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment Lou Ann!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  13. So cute! Happy Anniversary to your adorable parents :)

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  14. This post is fantastic! I've pinned it to my "marriage" board on Pinterest, so I can look at it again with my hubby. Thanks!

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    1. Aww thanks Carroll!! :)
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  15. This is such an amazing post! hubby needs to learn more than one

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    1. Thanks Loris for commenting! What hard work marriage is - well any relationship for that matter! Praying for you and your hubby!
      Blessings, Rebecca

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  16. Oh my goodness, I LOVED LOVED LOVED this post!
    I'm sharing it on my Facebook page.
    This is a must-read for all married couples!
    Thank you for finding my blog! =)

    ((hugs))

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    1. Aww thanks for sharing Becky!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  17. They haven't changed ONE BIT since we were kids! I always loved coming over to your house because your family was so fun to be around!! Love y'all!

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    1. Aww you are sweet friend! We LOVED having you around! What precious memories those times were!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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  18. They haven't changed ONE BIT since we were kids! I always loved coming over to your house because your family was so fun to be around!! Love y'all!

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    1. Aww you are sweet friend! We LOVED having you around! What precious memories those times were!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

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