Rejection in the Single Journey

January 30, 2017

“As you come to Him, a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious...”
-I Peter 2:4-

A couple of years ago, when I first started the blog, I shared how I moved to DC shortly after I was healed from my battle with Endometriosis. It was a temporary move as I had been accepted into a prestigious summer program at American University's Law School. My time there was truly wonderful and I shared a little bit about this experience in a post recently. What I didn't share was that during this time I experienced a heart-breaking rejection.

Since I was visiting from out of state I was staying with some friends from grad school and tagged along with them to their church. One Sunday I rode with my roommate ("K"),  her boyfriend ("M"), and her boyfriends roommate ("G") met us at church. After the service we realized that I should have driven because "K" and "M' had a meeting to attend that would last a couple of hours and I didn't have a way to get home (or so they said *smiles*). "Thankfully" "G" had driven and conveniently offered to drive me home. I agreed and as he drove me home we got talking and just seemed to "click". Pretty soon we decided to get some food and you know how it goes... girl meets boy, they go out a couple of times, girl really likes boy, and then boy admits that he is not over his ex-girlfriend... and girl feels rejected. 

I am sure that I , like many other ladies who are single (and who are married) could write a lot on this subject. We have all had to deal with rejection in one way or another, but as single women we can sometimes feel that we have been rejected from the thing that we desire most: marriage. 

Sometimes a recent, fragile, emotional, or disappointing circumstance (perhaps similar to the one that I shared above) can "encourage" these feelings to be more prevalent. At other times it is simply the struggle of being single and longing to be married and feeling "rejected" from this desire be delayed at this time in life. 

But sweet friends, let us find great encouragement in the truth that while men may reject us, God will never reject us. No matter what rejection we may feel or face with another human being, we are never rejected by God. The Lord promises us in Psalm 94:14; 

"...for the Lord will not reject His people; He will never forsake His inheritance."

Hold onto the sweet and beautiful truth that the Lord will never reject or forsake you. We have a High Priest who can empathize and sympathize with us because He experienced everything we have. He understands our weaknesses and will never reject us. What a beautiful comfort there is in knowing that He understands our feelings of rejection. 

"He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief..."
-Isaiah 53:3-

It is a beautiful thing to know that we can rest in this beautiful love of the Lord, a person who was rejected like we could be but who will never reject us. Beyond that friends, there is also a beautiful promise that we are chosen and precious in His eyes as I Peter 2:4 so eloquently states. 

Where have you felt and faced rejection friends? Some of my precious friends have faced rejection from their earliest days with their fathers. Others have experienced it from other men in dating relationships. Others have felt it when a husband has left them or when a fiance' breaks their vows of commitment. Wherever you have faced and experienced rejection friends, release it into the Lord's hands knowing that, Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.”(Psalm 27:10) 

Years after this situation happened, I share in my book, December Caravan, that I experienced rejection again when my ex-fiance walked out of our relationship a few months before we were to be married. A verse that meant so much to me during this time (and has remained one of my favorite verses) is from Isaiah 49:16. This beautiful and profound verse has been a balm for my soul throughout different seasons of rejection. It has remained one of my favorite verses as a single lady to this day. It simply states, "You have engraved me on the palms of your hands". This beautiful truth that the Lord would engrave my name on the palm of His hands holds such hope that the Lord will never ever reject me. How absolutely amazing!!

Happy Monday sweet friends! I pray that you have a wonderful week remembering that no matter the rejection from man, God will never reject us!


  1. Like you, I try to find comfort in the Lord and His timing!

    1. Yes!! How good He is!! :) So glad that we can encourage each other on our journeys!! :) I hope that you are having a lovely week so far!
      Blessings, Rebecca :)

  2. Thank you for all the beautiful verses you gave as a reminder that we are not rejected. We are fully accepted and loved by Him! Rejection from men is hard and it can take a lot of time to heal from but without God, the process can be worse and longer. Very inspiring to read how you stood on your word during these times. Blessings!!