Showing posts with label Chronic Illness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Chronic Illness. Show all posts
*update- July 31, 2025*
Happy Thursday friends! For today's Thursday Health Thoughts Post I wanted to re-share a post that was originally written here on the blog in 2016 about the Importance of Laughter for our health. While this post was written in the midst of my personal fight for health and physical life, I have found myself revisiting the wisdom of this for every single day. Even after healing, it has remained true for my life the importance of this- and the wisdom of finding laughter for your health.
I do want to add in a disclaimer also - I naturally find the joy, laughter, and humor in life... but I know that when you are in pain and sick that is not always easy to do so I hope that these tips can be helpful!
*original post from 2016*
Shortly after I was diagnosed with Advanced Late Stage Lyme Disease and Cancer I went to work reading many different books and doing tons of research (which I am sure everyone does!). My research kept pointing me to Norman Cousins book, "Anatomy of an Illness" so I definitely made a point to read this book. I was inspired and amazed by his story and would definitely recommend it, no matter anyone's diagnosis or even if you are completely healthy.
If you are not familiar with Cousins' story, he was diagnosed with a debilitating disease where his body would literally fuse together. It was incredibly painful and he was told it was incurable. Cousins shared that doctors only gave him a 500 to 1 chance of recovery.
Despite these discouraging odds Cousins implemented his own "treatment" and eventually recovered! In his book he discusses the entire method of what he did but one of the things that he writes about is the influence that laughter had on his healing process. Cousins (after he obtained his doctors' approval) chose not to stay in the hospital but he stayed in a hotel room (near the hospital) and in addition to his diet and vitamins he gave himself (as he termed it) "laugh therapy". Cousins watched and read anything that would bring him laughter. Overtime he started to see that for every ten minutes of laughter he would have a couple of pain free hours!
Isn't that incredible??!?
If you are not familiar with Cousins' story, he was diagnosed with a debilitating disease where his body would literally fuse together. It was incredibly painful and he was told it was incurable. Cousins shared that doctors only gave him a 500 to 1 chance of recovery.
Despite these discouraging odds Cousins implemented his own "treatment" and eventually recovered! In his book he discusses the entire method of what he did but one of the things that he writes about is the influence that laughter had on his healing process. Cousins (after he obtained his doctors' approval) chose not to stay in the hospital but he stayed in a hotel room (near the hospital) and in addition to his diet and vitamins he gave himself (as he termed it) "laugh therapy". Cousins watched and read anything that would bring him laughter. Overtime he started to see that for every ten minutes of laughter he would have a couple of pain free hours!
Isn't that incredible??!?
Every 10 minutes of laughter brought him a couple of pain free hours!! I was amazed when I read it!
Now, before I receive a ton of emails stating that this is not physically possible I do want to say that I do understand that when you are in pain and not feeling well it is sometimes hard to find the laughter. I do understand.
Seriously, I do.
But as I read the following statistics and information I was convinced again about the importance of finding laughter in our difficult and painful health circumstances.
Doctors say that laughter:
(1) can distract attention away from illness or pain
(2) can reduce tension
(3) can change a persons expectations by encouraging a different outlook
(4) can increase the production of endorphins which is the bodies natural pain killers
(5) can help the immune system in unexplained ways
(5) can help the immune system in unexplained ways
There are even some hospitals around the United States have even incorporated "laughter programs" to help their patients heal. There was an article several years ago about a Catholic hospital in Texas where nuns told funny stories to patients on a daily basis so that they would feel better and heal more quickly. The results and statistics in this hospital were astounding. Patients recovered faster, there were less complications, and patients were more inspired to fight for their lives despite grim diagnosis'.
Honestly, I do understand how difficult some days can be when you are hurting and sick or sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. There are times where tears are even to painful to cry. Life hurts and is messy and extremely difficult. But one of the things that shocked me to learn in my research was that it actually takes more effort and energy not to smile then it does to smile and laugh.
This really impacted me as my energy levels are so low and I try and do everything possible to not waste my little energy. Learning that it takes forty-three muscles to frown but only seventeen to smile is honestly a huge game changer. Does that mean that I don't cry or have moments where I am not laughing all of the time? Absolutely not. BUT it does mean that I have fought to find joy and laughter throughout each day and I truly believe that makes a difference in this healing journey.
This really impacted me as my energy levels are so low and I try and do everything possible to not waste my little energy. Learning that it takes forty-three muscles to frown but only seventeen to smile is honestly a huge game changer. Does that mean that I don't cry or have moments where I am not laughing all of the time? Absolutely not. BUT it does mean that I have fought to find joy and laughter throughout each day and I truly believe that makes a difference in this healing journey.
So what are some ways that you can find laughter ~ especially on days where it feels like that is the absolute last thing you want to do? Here are a few ideas:
* watch funny movies
* read funny books
* read the comics
*talk with friends and loved ones who bring laughter
* read funny blogs
(seriously, some are hilarious!)
* find the joy in simple things
Scamper, my kitty can make me laugh with things that he does. There are so many simple things that you can find to laugh about. An extra note... if you have never read the health post on the benefits of owning a pet click HERE!
* avoid the drama
I actually have chosen to gather facts about things that are happening worldwide but limit my "doomsday news reading"/ social media scrolling. I also have chosen to not watch anything that would cause stress, tension, or negative thoughts to go into my life.
* try not to take things so seriously
I am preaching to the choir on this because with being ill it can be difficult not to do this. I have learned though that if you look for the bad you will find it but if you look for the joy you can find joy.
* keep old emails, article clippings, letters, etc. that bring joy and laughter to look at often
* laugh at yourself
I have shared my endometriosis story here on the blog and to this day I will never forget a situation that happened during this intense time period. My mom and I were in a very populated mall when I received the phone call that the surgeon (from across the country) would accept me as a patient but would not be able to have an appointment available for an additional three months. This was devastating news as we were hoping to get in immediately and my mom and I sat down and bawled our eyes out right there in the middle of the busy mall. As we realized that people were staring at us we looked at each other and started to giggle and then couldn't stop laughing. To this day we laugh about this incident. Don't be afraid to step out and laugh!
I have shared my endometriosis story here on the blog and to this day I will never forget a situation that happened during this intense time period. My mom and I were in a very populated mall when I received the phone call that the surgeon (from across the country) would accept me as a patient but would not be able to have an appointment available for an additional three months. This was devastating news as we were hoping to get in immediately and my mom and I sat down and bawled our eyes out right there in the middle of the busy mall. As we realized that people were staring at us we looked at each other and started to giggle and then couldn't stop laughing. To this day we laugh about this incident. Don't be afraid to step out and laugh!
* choose to laugh at the hard and absurd of your health journey
I have had doctors and specialists tell me the most insane things and there is a time for standing up and making a declaration (like I did about that Real Housewives of Beverly Hills episode) but there is also a time for choosing to laugh at the hard and absurd.
I have had doctors and specialists tell me the most insane things and there is a time for standing up and making a declaration (like I did about that Real Housewives of Beverly Hills episode) but there is also a time for choosing to laugh at the hard and absurd.
One time, during an intense part of my health journey I had a check up with one of the doctors that I saw for routine health things. I hated seeing this doctor, but to keep some insurance requirements and because I was in the ER so often at that time I had no choice. I am not kidding when I share that during one appointment this doctor said, "so my treatment plan is working then? I told you that Lyme Disease didn't exist and all you needed was some rest in bed".
Now did I take a moment to share about Lyme Disease and advocate it in a respectful way? Yes.
BUT instead of letting this dictate my emotions for the next day or week, I simply laughed about it with friends later. As one of my friends said, "who knew that to cure Lyme and Cancer all you needed was a couple of years in bed?" Seriously, we laughed until we cried and then we did cry for a few minutes and then we made the decision to laugh some more. Don't let someone steal your joy and laughter.
Where do you find laughter? I would love to hear your thoughts and ideas! Happy Thursday friends!
To be truthful I had heard of Apple Cider Vinegar before but had never really known anything about it or the health benefits of it until about a 13 years ago when I started to fight for my health. One of my first doctors in the journey recommended it to me and I was amazed to discover a wide range of possible uses and health benefits that Apple Cider Vinegar provides. Starting in 2012 I introduced this simple yet powerful health aide into my life and have never looked back. I hope today inspires you to use this as well!
Looking for tips on how to incorporate Apple Cider Vinegar into your life? Check out the post that I wrote, 17 Quick and Easy Ways to Include Apple Cider Vinegar into Your Life (click HERE) for ideas!
I personally would recommend Braggs Organic Apple Cider Vinegar (find HERE) and all of the things that are listed here today are based on their specific brand. As a side note you can locate this in this in the condiment and the health aisles of your grocery store because it is used in a variety of different ways.
So what are the health benefits of organic Apple Cider Vinegar? Check these out:.
1. Helps with digestion.
2. Helps wash toxins away from the body.
3. Help to kill or slow the growth of cancer cells in the body.
4. Some studies have suggested that vinegar can help with obesity because it helps people feel fuller quicker.
5. Known to help with diabetes. For diabetics there has been a lot of research done that shows that apple cider vinegar can help lower glucose levels
6. There have been cases that have stated that Apple Cider Vinegar can help kill lice.
7. Helps to strengthen the immune system and some articles have claimed that it will help heal a cold.
8. Helps to alleviate bad breath.
9. Helps to balance the PH levels.
10. This might sound humorous but instead of being scared to death or trying to hold your breath Readers Digest suggested using apple cider vinegar to cure hiccups.
11. Some reports have claimed that it can help with exercise exhaustion.
12. Helps with nighttime leg cramps.
13. Helps to whiten your teeth.
14. Helps to reduce acne.
15. Helps to erase cellulite. You can find the mixture recipe here.
Do you use Apple Cider Vinegar daily? In what ways have you found it helpful?
THIS is the apple cider vinegar that I recommend and personally use! You can find it on Amazon by clicking HERE! If you have been around the blog for a while you may remember me recommending the same apple cider vinegar before as this is the same product I use in my daily detox baths!
Looking for ways to include Apple Cider Vinegar into your life? Check out this post below:
17 Quick and Easy Ways to Include Apple Cider Vinegar into Your Life
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*update- December 12, 2024*
Happy Thursday friends! For today's Thursday Health Thoughts Post I wanted to re-share a post that was originally written here on the blog in 2013 about 30 Christmas Present Ideas for a Chronically Ill Friend. While this post was written in the midst of my personal fight for health and physical life, I have found myself revisiting the wisdom of this for every single day now on the other side being healthy and loving on those who are struggling with a chronic illness. I hope it is a practical encouragement to you for those you love in your life who have a chronic illness.
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If you are looking for an in depth guide and encouragement on specific things to do this holiday season my easy to read e-book, 12 Things to Do: For Yourself, A Loved One, A Spouse, The Parents, The Children, and The Caretakers Dealing With Chronic Health Conditions During the Holiday Season (Chronic Grace Series Book 2) can be helpful! You can find it on Amazon HERE!
Since 2013 I have also added a lot of additional posts to the holiday seasons and helping friends... if you would like to check them out you can click on the links below:
Thanksgiving: // 15 Ways to Help a Friend at Thanksgiving //
I hope you find all of those items helpful! Here is the original post with a few minor updates below! Happy Thursday friends!
*Original Post- November 21, 2013 (with updates)*
Last week's Thursday Health Thoughts post was about 17 ways you can help a chronically ill friend with chronic illness during the holidays. As I mentioned last week I want to share 30 Christmas Present ideas for a chronically ill friend. Some of these ideas you may have seen before in the 26 ways to help a Chronically Ill friend. Again, I am not an expert at all, but the things that I have listed below are things that friends have mentioned to me that have been wonderful or I personally experienced during my health journey that truly touched my heart and my life. Be creative and trust me your kindness will touch the heart of your ill friend forever.
1. Offer monetary help if possible.
Even with insurance those with Chronic Illness spend thousands and thousands of dollars trying to get healthy. Many people with Chronic Illness, go through all available resources. I was the recipient of monetary help and one week was even offered a plane ticket to see a dear friends wedding. Without this type of help I could never have gone to the wedding or have received treatment in California. These types of gifts do not have to be large either. Someone gave me a five dollar gift card to Target on regular basis that helped purchase necessities. Such a blessing! Gift cards to Target are priceless! This can help purchase medications, groceries, clothes, and the list goes on! Truly gift cards are wonderful if that is an option for you to give!
Even with insurance those with Chronic Illness spend thousands and thousands of dollars trying to get healthy. Many people with Chronic Illness, go through all available resources. I was the recipient of monetary help and one week was even offered a plane ticket to see a dear friends wedding. Without this type of help I could never have gone to the wedding or have received treatment in California. These types of gifts do not have to be large either. Someone gave me a five dollar gift card to Target on regular basis that helped purchase necessities. Such a blessing! Gift cards to Target are priceless! This can help purchase medications, groceries, clothes, and the list goes on! Truly gift cards are wonderful if that is an option for you to give!
2. Purchase their favorite bath items.
Many with Chronic illness use special bath products (including shampoo, conditioner, soap, lotion, perfume, deodorant, etc.) that are free from certain dyes, chemicals, or ingredients. Yes, these items are more expensive but are necessary. What a lovely gift this would be for someone! Don't know what they use? Ask them or a family member!
Many with Chronic illness use special bath products (including shampoo, conditioner, soap, lotion, perfume, deodorant, etc.) that are free from certain dyes, chemicals, or ingredients. Yes, these items are more expensive but are necessary. What a lovely gift this would be for someone! Don't know what they use? Ask them or a family member!
3. Pay their Cell Phone Bill for a month.
Most with chronic illness desperately need our cell phones and that yucky bill each month takes out a huge amount of money. One time in the journey for me someone paid this and it came at the exact right time that I was having to decide on paying the cell phone or purchasing a medication I needed.
Most with chronic illness desperately need our cell phones and that yucky bill each month takes out a huge amount of money. One time in the journey for me someone paid this and it came at the exact right time that I was having to decide on paying the cell phone or purchasing a medication I needed.
4. Purchase a gift certificate to a special salon.
As a lady who loved getting her nails done each month, having regular hair appointments, etc. this was been a HUGE change while I am ill. These were the first things to go so that items needed for treatment and paying medical bills, etc. comes first. But honestly (I will say it for your friends who don't feel like they can!) I was still a gal who loved being a lady and I missed "feeling" like that all the time and I heard countless others say the same thing.
As a lady who loved getting her nails done each month, having regular hair appointments, etc. this was been a HUGE change while I am ill. These were the first things to go so that items needed for treatment and paying medical bills, etc. comes first. But honestly (I will say it for your friends who don't feel like they can!) I was still a gal who loved being a lady and I missed "feeling" like that all the time and I heard countless others say the same thing.
5. Listen without offering advice (unless asked).
When you offer unsolicited advice, it can come across as a lecture- even if that is not your intent. Someone once said: "Assume that we have heard all of the tips on living healthier and leave it at that." I couldn't have said it any better.
When you offer unsolicited advice, it can come across as a lecture- even if that is not your intent. Someone once said: "Assume that we have heard all of the tips on living healthier and leave it at that." I couldn't have said it any better.
6. Provide a special basket for a "night in".
Gather a few items together to give to those who can't go out- Perhaps a snack, movie, etc. could provide a lovely gift!
Gather a few items together to give to those who can't go out- Perhaps a snack, movie, etc. could provide a lovely gift!
7. Give a coupon book/ card that lists out something that you (and your family) will do once a month, once a week, etc. for a year.
Need suggestions? Here are just a few things that immediately come to mind:
Need suggestions? Here are just a few things that immediately come to mind:
(a) Help with housework.
(b) Help with yard work.
(c) Drive your friend to a doctors appointment or treatment (and offer to stay with them). I heard of a friend whose best friend drove her to every single doctors appointment in one area of her physical needs. That allows her spouse and other family members to have a "day off" of one doctor.
(d) Drive their children to school one day a week.
(e) Bring a meal twice a month.
(f) Pick up groceries once a week.
(g) Offer to go to Target, Walmart, etc. once a week or twice a month for them.
I could go on and on but y'all are creative!
8. Buy nice pajamas.
Those with Chronic Illness spend a lot of time in bed or in the hospital and nice pajamas are always a lovely gift.
Those with Chronic Illness spend a lot of time in bed or in the hospital and nice pajamas are always a lovely gift.
9. Magazine subscriptions are a lovely gift!
This again is a thing that gets cut when money is tight and is a lovely gift for a year!
This again is a thing that gets cut when money is tight and is a lovely gift for a year!
10. Purchase a netflix or hulu account for a year for your friend.
11. Buy a "prime" membership on amazon.
This can provide your friend with countless free TV shows, movies, and even books to read! And guess what? If they purchase supplements or products on amazon they will be eligible on FREE 2-day shipping! Someone gave me this gift for a year in the journey and it was wonderful!
This can provide your friend with countless free TV shows, movies, and even books to read! And guess what? If they purchase supplements or products on amazon they will be eligible on FREE 2-day shipping! Someone gave me this gift for a year in the journey and it was wonderful!
12. Create a relaxing atmosphere.
Purchase music, i-tunes gift cards, etc. so that your friend can listen to relaxing & encouraging music.
Purchase music, i-tunes gift cards, etc. so that your friend can listen to relaxing & encouraging music.
13. Ask them what the best books are on their illness and then read them.
Tell them that you have spent the time doing this and believe me this is PRICELESS. You will be able to have an intelligent and compassionate conversation from that moment forward since you will be knowledgeable about their illness. (Side Note: Read what they suggest not what "Dr. Google" says...)
Tell them that you have spent the time doing this and believe me this is PRICELESS. You will be able to have an intelligent and compassionate conversation from that moment forward since you will be knowledgeable about their illness. (Side Note: Read what they suggest not what "Dr. Google" says...)
14. Introduce a hobby or supplement their existing hobby.
Does your friend do a hobby that helps them pass the time or that they enjoy? Purchase items that they have been wanting or give them a gift card to their favorite specialty craft store. Do they not have a hobby but have been talking about starting one? Buy the intro book, the intro supplies, and give them the gift of creativity! Or try sudoko, word searches, etc!
Does your friend do a hobby that helps them pass the time or that they enjoy? Purchase items that they have been wanting or give them a gift card to their favorite specialty craft store. Do they not have a hobby but have been talking about starting one? Buy the intro book, the intro supplies, and give them the gift of creativity! Or try sudoko, word searches, etc!
15. Give the gift or reading.
Is there something that your friend loves to read? Buy them the books. Does your friend have an illness that makes reading hard? Give them audio books! Don't know what to give them? Purchase a gift card to a bookstore or a kindle gift card. Maybe even purchase a kindle...
Is there something that your friend loves to read? Buy them the books. Does your friend have an illness that makes reading hard? Give them audio books! Don't know what to give them? Purchase a gift card to a bookstore or a kindle gift card. Maybe even purchase a kindle...
16. Soft, Snugly, and Comfy blankets.
I love cozy blankets and when I was sick and the pain was intense cozy blankets were a gift. Soft blankets, comfy sheets, and sweet throws- all lovely. One year I was the recipient of a beautiful prayer quilt. Every time that I looked at it and used it I was reminded that there were SO many people praying for me.
I love cozy blankets and when I was sick and the pain was intense cozy blankets were a gift. Soft blankets, comfy sheets, and sweet throws- all lovely. One year I was the recipient of a beautiful prayer quilt. Every time that I looked at it and used it I was reminded that there were SO many people praying for me.
17. Research and Purchase a Gadget that can help them with a disability.
You have heard me say this before but money is tight and lots of times gadgets are not purchased. Don't know what is needed? Ask them or their family members!
You have heard me say this before but money is tight and lots of times gadgets are not purchased. Don't know what is needed? Ask them or their family members!
18. Gift Baskets.
This article: 10 top gift basket ideas for those suffering with Chronic Illness has wonderful ideas. Don't know what to get? Consider purchasing a Well Basket.
This article: 10 top gift basket ideas for those suffering with Chronic Illness has wonderful ideas. Don't know what to get? Consider purchasing a Well Basket.
19. Journals.
While not everyone is a writer, some of us go through journalsyearly monthly weekly. *smiles* OOh... and pretty pens... hahaha that last one is just for me!
While not everyone is a writer, some of us go through journals
20. Gas Gift Cards.
I can't even begin to express how much money I spent on gas money each week driving to all of my local doctors appointments and this doesn't even begin to account for the ones that weren't local. Gas gift cards are a wonderful gift.
I can't even begin to express how much money I spent on gas money each week driving to all of my local doctors appointments and this doesn't even begin to account for the ones that weren't local. Gas gift cards are a wonderful gift.
21. Purchase supplements, oils, etc.
Is your friend using alternative supplements? These are often expensive and this would be a wonderful gift. Disclaimer: only purchase what your friend is currently using. This is not the time to give advice on what you believe would be the cure!
Is your friend using alternative supplements? These are often expensive and this would be a wonderful gift. Disclaimer: only purchase what your friend is currently using. This is not the time to give advice on what you believe would be the cure!
22. Donate to an organization that supports research for their disease.
23. Mind the car.
Along with #20 - a car gets lots of use. Take the car for a "spa day" and get the oil changed, washed, filled up with gas, and tuned up. This would be an AMAZING gift! Better yet, have someone do an entire tune up!
Along with #20 - a car gets lots of use. Take the car for a "spa day" and get the oil changed, washed, filled up with gas, and tuned up. This would be an AMAZING gift! Better yet, have someone do an entire tune up!
24. Hold a benefit concert, run, walk, etc. for them.
25. Bath Spa- Hot tub.
Yes, hot tubs are expensive but Amazon sells Bath Spa Mats with so many different options. This would be such a lovely gift! Along with this idea: special heating pads, massage heating pads, etc.
Yes, hot tubs are expensive but Amazon sells Bath Spa Mats with so many different options. This would be such a lovely gift! Along with this idea: special heating pads, massage heating pads, etc.
26. Winter items.
Do y'all live in an area where winter rears its ugly head? Consider purchasing a can of spray defroster so that they do not have to scrape their car, hiring someone to shovel for them, or maybe gloves, warm scarves, etc.!
Do y'all live in an area where winter rears its ugly head? Consider purchasing a can of spray defroster so that they do not have to scrape their car, hiring someone to shovel for them, or maybe gloves, warm scarves, etc.!
27. Tickets to live performances for a year.
Does your friend love musicals or comedies or acting? Consider purchasing four or five tickets for them and a friend/spouse to go to these events every couple of months.
28. Homemade Inspirational Artwork.
Create artwork that can be displayed- especially for those who are bedridden.
29. Be Present.
I have said this before, but the best gift that you can give is yourself.
30. Remember the caregiver(s).
I often said this during my journey but being ill is often harder on my family then it was on myself. To see people that are constantly hurting and suffering and not be able to do anything about it is excruciating. Reach out to the caregivers and you will touch the heart of the person who is ill too.
As I said last week, realize that your friend or family member with chronic illness is the best gift this season. Their illness is forcing them to set limitations but the gift to you is remembering what is truly important in the holiday season. Celebrate PEOPLE. Not things or activities. At the end of the day people are the most important thing not whether or not you were able to buy every single gift in the world.
What are some of your Christmas gift ideas for those in your life who are ill? Please share with us in the comments below!
Does your friend love musicals or comedies or acting? Consider purchasing four or five tickets for them and a friend/spouse to go to these events every couple of months.
28. Homemade Inspirational Artwork.
Create artwork that can be displayed- especially for those who are bedridden.
29. Be Present.
I have said this before, but the best gift that you can give is yourself.
30. Remember the caregiver(s).
I often said this during my journey but being ill is often harder on my family then it was on myself. To see people that are constantly hurting and suffering and not be able to do anything about it is excruciating. Reach out to the caregivers and you will touch the heart of the person who is ill too.
As I said last week, realize that your friend or family member with chronic illness is the best gift this season. Their illness is forcing them to set limitations but the gift to you is remembering what is truly important in the holiday season. Celebrate PEOPLE. Not things or activities. At the end of the day people are the most important thing not whether or not you were able to buy every single gift in the world.
What are some of your Christmas gift ideas for those in your life who are ill? Please share with us in the comments below!
*update- December 5, 2024*
Happy Thursday friends! For today's Thursday Health Thoughts Post I wanted to re-share a post that was originally written here on the blog in 2013 about 17 ways to help a friend with a chronic illness during the holidays. While this post was written in the midst of my personal fight for health and physical life, I have found myself revisiting the wisdom of this for every single day now on the other side being healthy and loving on those who are struggling with a chronic illness. I hope it is a practical encouragement to you for those you love in your life who have a chronic illness.
If you are looking for an in depth guide and encouragement on specific things to do this holiday season my easy to read e-book, 12 Things to Do: For Yourself, A Loved One, A Spouse, The Parents, The Children, and The Caretakers Dealing With Chronic Health Conditions During the Holiday Season (Chronic Grace Series Book 2) can be helpful! You can find it on Amazon HERE!
Since 2013 I have also added a lot of additional posts to the holiday seasons and helping friends... if you would like to check them out you can click on the links below:
Thanksgiving: // 15 Ways to Help a Friend at Thanksgiving //
I hope you find all of those items helpful! Here is the original post with a few minor updates below! Happy Thursday friends!
*original post from 2013*
Several months ago I wrote a Thursday Health Thought that has remained one of my highest read posts and most commented on posts. The post discussed 26 Ways to Help a Friend with Chronic Illness and was widely appreciated by those who have a chronic illness and those who know someone with a chronic illness. A couple of weeks ago I started to receive some emails referencing that post and asking if there were any specific thoughts or ideas on how to reach out to someone with a chronic illness during the holidays. {Seriously?? Y'all are awesome!!}So today I wanted to share 17 Ways to Help a Friend with Chronic Illness During the Holidays and next week will share Christmas Present Ideas for a Friend with Chronic Illness!
I am not an expert at all, but the things that I have listed below are things that friends have mentioned to me that have been wonderful or I have personally experienced that have truly touched my heart and my life as a person who is seriously ill during the Holiday Season!
1. When hosting a party- offer some foods that your friend (who is on a special diet) can eat.
Don't make this a big deal but try to incorporate snacks that you know your friend can eat.
2. When hosting a dinner party take the time to share with your Chronically Ill friend ahead of time the ingredients of all of your dishes.
This will save your friend any awkwardness of having to ask questions in front of the other guests and like a burden at the party.
3.Pray for your friend.
The holidays can be stressful for people and this is especially true of those with chronic illnesses. Looking for specific things to pray? Check out my e-book- 12 Things to Pray: For Yourself, A Loved One, A Spouse, The Parents, The Children, and The Caretakers Dealing With Chronic Health Conditions (Chronic Grace Series Book 1)! You can find it on Amazon HERE!
4. Offer to pick up presents for your friend.
These could be presents for their family and friends when you are going Christmas Shopping for your own family and friends.
5. Help them decorate their house (or outside of their house).
This offer can be truly priceless as decorating takes lots of energy. Maybe your family can make a Saturday of offering this to several families that you know. What a blessing this would be! (Also consider blessing families who can't afford a Christmas tree this year due to health costs with a tree!)
6. Help them take decorations down after the holidays!
Just like #5 maybe this could be a Saturday project for your family or a group of friends! (And don't forget about disposing of the Christmas Tree!)
7. Be Sensitive.
Understand that money is tight and that the holidays are incredibly stressful for your friend. A gift exchange is fun, but for those with a chronic illness money can be overwhelming. Think of creative ways to host gift exchanges that don't cost much money.
8. Remember your neighbors!
Helping those who are less fortunate, serving at the homeless shelter, etc. are all wonderful ideas BUT have you ever thought about serving those who are even closer to you? Your chronically ill friend is in serious need. Consider serving those closest to you this year!
9. Be Patient.
Things may look different with your friend and family members who are seriously ill but remember that they are still the same person. Be patient with the changes.
10. Laugh often with your friend or family member.
Maybe offer to bring over a comedy to watch together, send a funny card in the mail, or just leave a message that could bring a smile to their face!
11. Don't make it about you.
Yes, the holiday season is about giving but be respectful of your friends wishes and desires. Maybe they really don't want you to come over at midnight to celebrate December 19th. (Yes, Hahaha that is a true story! *smiles*)
12. Consider starting new holiday traditions.
13. Take up a secret holiday collection and give it to your friend.
14. Celebrate the simplicity of the holiday season.
15. Be Thoughtful.
Spread out the holiday activities to help your family member be able to join in on many things. (Instead of doing EVERY thing in one day maybe go caroling one night, Christmas shopping another day, etc.)
16. Be Compassionate.
Does your friend have more pain or fatigue later in the evening? Consider hosting a brunch instead of a dinner! (Or vice versa!)
17. Realize that your friend or family member with chronic illness is the best gift this season.
Their illness is forcing them to set limitations but the gift to you is remembering what is truly important in the holiday season. Celebrate PEOPLE. Not things or activities. At the end of the day people are the most important thing not whether or not you were able to buy every single gift in the world.
What are some ways that you help a friend with a chronic illness during the holidays?
Don't make this a big deal but try to incorporate snacks that you know your friend can eat.
2. When hosting a dinner party take the time to share with your Chronically Ill friend ahead of time the ingredients of all of your dishes.
This will save your friend any awkwardness of having to ask questions in front of the other guests and like a burden at the party.
3.Pray for your friend.
The holidays can be stressful for people and this is especially true of those with chronic illnesses. Looking for specific things to pray? Check out my e-book- 12 Things to Pray: For Yourself, A Loved One, A Spouse, The Parents, The Children, and The Caretakers Dealing With Chronic Health Conditions (Chronic Grace Series Book 1)! You can find it on Amazon HERE!
4. Offer to pick up presents for your friend.
These could be presents for their family and friends when you are going Christmas Shopping for your own family and friends.
5. Help them decorate their house (or outside of their house).
This offer can be truly priceless as decorating takes lots of energy. Maybe your family can make a Saturday of offering this to several families that you know. What a blessing this would be! (Also consider blessing families who can't afford a Christmas tree this year due to health costs with a tree!)
6. Help them take decorations down after the holidays!
Just like #5 maybe this could be a Saturday project for your family or a group of friends! (And don't forget about disposing of the Christmas Tree!)
7. Be Sensitive.
Understand that money is tight and that the holidays are incredibly stressful for your friend. A gift exchange is fun, but for those with a chronic illness money can be overwhelming. Think of creative ways to host gift exchanges that don't cost much money.
8. Remember your neighbors!
Helping those who are less fortunate, serving at the homeless shelter, etc. are all wonderful ideas BUT have you ever thought about serving those who are even closer to you? Your chronically ill friend is in serious need. Consider serving those closest to you this year!
9. Be Patient.
Things may look different with your friend and family members who are seriously ill but remember that they are still the same person. Be patient with the changes.
10. Laugh often with your friend or family member.
Maybe offer to bring over a comedy to watch together, send a funny card in the mail, or just leave a message that could bring a smile to their face!
11. Don't make it about you.
Yes, the holiday season is about giving but be respectful of your friends wishes and desires. Maybe they really don't want you to come over at midnight to celebrate December 19th. (Yes, Hahaha that is a true story! *smiles*)
12. Consider starting new holiday traditions.
13. Take up a secret holiday collection and give it to your friend.
14. Celebrate the simplicity of the holiday season.
15. Be Thoughtful.
Spread out the holiday activities to help your family member be able to join in on many things. (Instead of doing EVERY thing in one day maybe go caroling one night, Christmas shopping another day, etc.)
16. Be Compassionate.
Does your friend have more pain or fatigue later in the evening? Consider hosting a brunch instead of a dinner! (Or vice versa!)
17. Realize that your friend or family member with chronic illness is the best gift this season.
Their illness is forcing them to set limitations but the gift to you is remembering what is truly important in the holiday season. Celebrate PEOPLE. Not things or activities. At the end of the day people are the most important thing not whether or not you were able to buy every single gift in the world.
What are some ways that you help a friend with a chronic illness during the holidays?
I had grown up traveling often with my family - whether it was to a different state or country or even just a weekend day drive to a new place to us in our city. Discovering this again, while I was seriously ill, was a gift that has no words.
One of the main ways that I have fallen in love with travel over the years, is through cruising! Prior to my first cruise in 2014 (to the Caribbean on Royal Caribbean) I had never been on a cruise before! After that cruise (which was a miracle trip in itself considering how sick I was!) I realized the beautiful blessing of how cruising could be a wonderful idea for those who are struggling with chronic health conditions.
One of the main ways that I have fallen in love with travel over the years, is through cruising! Prior to my first cruise in 2014 (to the Caribbean on Royal Caribbean) I had never been on a cruise before! After that cruise (which was a miracle trip in itself considering how sick I was!) I realized the beautiful blessing of how cruising could be a wonderful idea for those who are struggling with chronic health conditions.
As I have continued to do cruises and have several exciting ones coming up that I can't wait to share with y'all I have learned so many tips on how to navigate cruising with a chronic illness that I wanted to share today.
As a disclaimer: Traveling to me is such an amazing adventure that truly has helped keep me focused and excited through different treatment rounds and yet, at the same time though, I have traveled enough while I have been fighting for my health to know that you don't "leave" your sick body and automatically get a "new one" just for a trip (wouldn't that be nice?? *smiles*). Because of this it is so important to understand and prepare ahead of time for any trip when you are chronically ill.
Traveling takes a risk and a courage- especially when you don't feel well. If you haven't struggled with a chronic or long term illness the idea of traveling perhaps sounds strange or foreign. You might even question why people do this if they "feel so sick". I can't answer for everyone but when I was sick for all of those years I pushed myself to live despite being sick. I decided then and there that I was going to grab onto life and experience it. I wanted to grab onto experiences and live bigger than my world of illness "allowed".
Traveling takes a risk and a courage- especially when you don't feel well. If you haven't struggled with a chronic or long term illness the idea of traveling perhaps sounds strange or foreign. You might even question why people do this if they "feel so sick". I can't answer for everyone but when I was sick for all of those years I pushed myself to live despite being sick. I decided then and there that I was going to grab onto life and experience it. I wanted to grab onto experiences and live bigger than my world of illness "allowed".
So if you are taking that risk... if you are stepping out and grabbing onto life in a new way and are going for a cruise while you are ill I applaud you. I applaud you for any small or big steps you are taking as you heal. And today I wanted to share 10 Tips for Cruising with a Chronic Illness and hope that these will help you in your next adventure!
1. Prepare As Much As Possible Ahead of Time
Many people may pack excitedly the week before the cruise, it is wise to spend time preparing and packing as much as possible in the months prior to your trip. While there are certain items that you may not be able to pack till the last minute (different meds with insurance regulations), relieving the stress of waiting till the last minute will help your body. Preparing ahead allows you to really think about each item that you want to bring and also allows you to have the time to make sure that you have all of your medications, supplements, etc. In addition preparing ahead for your cruise can provide a fun opportunity for you to look ahead, discuss with your travel companions the upcoming fun, and look outside the difficult and painful days that you are having.
To help me start the LONG process of preparing for a trip, I usually go "old school" and write everything out by hand! THIS is one of my favorite journals to do this in - I love the beauty of it and the practicality of easy to write on and that is hard cover! If you are looking for an equally beautiful old fashioned notebook, y'all THIS one is simply gorgeous.
2. Face Your Fears and Choose to Be Courageous
I won't even begin to start listing all of the fears that I have when I go on any trip as I leave my family who are my caretakers, my doctors, the hospitals that I am familiar with, etc. Living with a chronic or serious illness can be extremely difficult and when we go to change up that routine it can cause a lot of fear. The mind can play incredible tricks on us and in the months and weeks and days leading up to your cruise you might be thinking, "what if this happens, what if that happens, etc." I think C.S. Lewis' words in this situation are best:
"Courage, Dear Heart".
"Courage, Dear Heart".
No one on your cruise might know what a act of courage it is to step out, leave your surroundings that are helping you fight for your health, and take this cruise, but know that you can do it. Take the cruise. Take the time to celebrate life. Take the time to remember what you are fighting so hard for in your fight for your health. You can do this.
If you are looking for a book that I have found helpful in struggling with anxiety of over health related items- especially related to travel, THIS book, "What if it's Wonderful?" is beautiful. While the author is not discussing chronic illness directly, the concepts are encouraging and inspiring.
3. Be Realistic About What You Can and Can't Do
When you are booking your shore excursions be realistic about what you can and can't do. My mom, dear friends, and my medical team (whom I run everything by before any trip) are kind and compassionate sounding boards gently saying sometimes, "do you think that you can realistically do this?". While I could choose to be offended by their words, I instead knew that they were coming from someone who knows that my heart wants to go on that 10 mile hike, followed by a whitewater rafting trip and ending with the zipline through the mountains for 7 hours, but my body is just not physically able to. Take the time to be realistic about what you can and can't do and you will end up enjoying your preparations for your cruise and the cruise itself fully!
4. Plan Your Shore Excursions Wisely
Following along with #3, make sure to plan your shore excursions wisely. Think about the timing of the shore excursions and what times are best for you in the day. Think about the amount of energy each shore excursion will take and how that will look in your overall cruising adventure.
Don't forget some important details like talking with the cruise line that you are going with about how transportation will work to the shore excursions, etc. (For example some excursions don't include actual walking on the excursion itself, but do require a half-mile hike to the start of the excursion!) Taking the time to plan your shore excursions wisely will ensure that you have fun, not just for one day, but for the entire cruise.
Don't forget some important details like talking with the cruise line that you are going with about how transportation will work to the shore excursions, etc. (For example some excursions don't include actual walking on the excursion itself, but do require a half-mile hike to the start of the excursion!) Taking the time to plan your shore excursions wisely will ensure that you have fun, not just for one day, but for the entire cruise.
5. Plan, Prepare, and Pack All of Your Medications, Supplements, Etc.
One of the things that can take a lot of time in preparing for a cruise is planning, preparing and packing all of your medications, supplements, etc. Honestly it can take a bit of maneuvering (and a lot of patience) to make sure that you have all of your meds before your trip. As much as it is possible try to let your doctors know in advance that you will be going on the cruise and that you will need meds (and extra meds depending on your situation) for the duration of your cruise. I can't encourage you enough to work on this ahead of time as some medications can only be purchased with insurance at certain intervals so you will want to work this out with your doctor and insurance company. Think about what won’t be accessible on the cruise even in a shop or pharmacy stocks that might cater to guests, such as the best ointment for hemorrhoids. Also, check with the cruise line as many cruise lines require that your medications are in the original containers not just in random pill containers.
Don't forget to pack all of your supplements and any other alternative meds you might use for your situation. I don't like wrapping my supplements and vitamins in aluminum foil, but for traveling I have found it so helpful to pack my pills in aluminum foil already separated out for the times that I take them. (For example: breakfast, lunch, dinner, morning snack, evening, midnight, etc.) Having my pills already prepared allows me to easily have my supplements available and also allows me not to bring along my hundreds of supplement bottles. In addition this saves me time in the mornings as I just pick up what I need for the day and head on out!
**Don't forget to check with your cruise line ahead of time (guest relations department) if you are needing to bring on board any special products. Different cruise lines have different restrictions and you will want to know this before you arrive. I recommend dealing with this two months out from your cruise, that way if the cruise line needs special documentation from your doctors office you have time to gather all of the documentation you need. I have found that this takes a lot of time to prepare in this way, but this will prevent you from having any issues when you embark onto the boat.**
6. Plan Your Travel To and From the Cruise Wisely
The last thing that you want to do is exacerbate your symptoms or start off or end your cruise on the wrong foot. Think through your travel plans carefully so that you can fully enjoy your cruise!
7. Make Use of Cruise Assistance if You Need It
If you are not familiar with cruise assistance, it is similar to airport assistance in that the cruise line will offer to help people who are disabled or chronically ill to help them get around the cruise and embark or disembark from the cruise.
Sometimes the reality is that embarking on the cruise the first day and disembarking the last day can create a lot of stress and strain on those who are chronically ill. You can spend a lot of energy walking, standing and waiting, and pain trying to get your bags, yourself, etc. on and off the boat. Making use of the cruise assistance can be a blessing and something to consider if you need it. If you think that you will need to use this contact the cruise line ahead of time, explain your situation, and ask them how to best go about this.
8. Speak Up to Those Around You
On my first cruise I wanted to "get away from sick world" and asked my traveling companion not to share that I was ill. Let me be honest- I hate being the center of attention so in some ways this worked fabulously to allow me to "get away", but it also created a ton of awkward situations and eventually led me to apologizing for not being up front more with my health to the friends I made on the cruise as they were apologizing to me for not knowing!
I am not suggesting that you can't have a vacation "away" from your fight for your health, but I am suggesting that you can quietly set the tone when people ask why you need assistance and then move on. This is what I started doing on my second cruise and from every trip since then. Lots of times those of us with chronic illness struggle to explain our invisible illnesses and this is an opportunity to learn how to share, advocate for yourself, explain that you have a long term illness and might need help, and then move on to enjoy your cruise.
**Try not to let any silent or critical judgment or words about your health spoil your trip. I heard a couple of very hurtful and rude comments on my first cruise when people saw that I had a handicap permit with me but wasn't using a wheelchair. There were also several comments about I couldn't be "that sick" if I was on the cruise. People can truly be mean and not understand what a fight it is for you to have made the decision to come on the cruise. Don't let any inconsiderate and rude comments or silent judgmental looks ruin your vacation. If you are looking for more inspiration on this specific suggestion, check out my post: Answering the "But You Don't Act Sick" Statements by clicking HERE!**
9. Expect Difficult Times and Have a Backup Plan
It can be hard when you are cruising to accept that sometimes your body might struggle and have difficult times or days. I am sure so many of us have heard- "just think positively and you will have a wonderful cruise-you won't feel pain or sickness at all". That would be awesome, but the reality is that many times we will experience pain or sickness because we are still in our bodies. That is okay!
Don't let times of sickness and pain ruin your cruise. On my first cruise I remember having a breakdown the first day on the shore excursion because I realized that I needed to sit and not explore all of the Atlantis property. It was frustrating, sad, and hard to realize that I still had limitations even though I was on "vacation". Having the opportunity to cry and release some of those expectations allowed me to enjoy the rest of the cruise with a more realistic lens. The next day, when friends were going snorkeling in Coco Cay (something that I loved to do before I got sick) my heart wanted to jump and join them but I quietly declined and watched from my chair. Instead of wallowing in self-pity though I watched with joy as my friends explored the water and thanked God that I was well enough to have even got off the boat to enjoy a very special day with my friends. What was a "typical or normal day" to many people was the highlight of many months to me.
The amazing thing also was that when I went back to Coco Cay two years later I was able to do all of the things I had dreamt about doing the years before. Time... healing... and more time are often the greatest gifts.
The amazing thing also was that when I went back to Coco Cay two years later I was able to do all of the things I had dreamt about doing the years before. Time... healing... and more time are often the greatest gifts.
My best advice is to accept your limitations, cry if you need to, find the joy in the day and the time, and have a backup plan. Take some extra time to rest and relax and join up with your cruising companions later in the day. Most importantly, take a deep breath. Nothing is ruined- keep the joy and faith, even in the difficult times.
10. Contact the Cruise Line Ahead of Time about Food Allergies
Many people dealing with a chronic illness also deal with a myriad of food allergies and sensitivities. Even though food on a cruise is always available, the food that is available might not be something that you can eat. Take the time to call the cruise line ahead of time, discuss your food allergies, and make necessary preparations ahead of time for what you will need. I also recommend carrying an allergy card and giving this to your waiter the first evening so that they are prepared and knowledgeable about your allergies.
What about you? What tips do you have for cruising with a chronic illness? Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by and read today! If you are looking for more tips on traveling with a chronic illness you can find some more posts listed below!
5 Imporrant Tips for Traveling with a Chronic Illness
10 Tips for Thriving on Road Trips with a Chronic Illness
10 Tips for Enjoying Disneyworld With a Chronic Illness
4 Tips for Enjoying Animal Kingdom with a Chronic Illness
5 Imporrant Tips for Traveling with a Chronic Illness
10 Tips for Thriving on Road Trips with a Chronic Illness
10 Tips for Enjoying Disneyworld With a Chronic Illness
4 Tips for Enjoying Animal Kingdom with a Chronic Illness
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