What to Do When Your Career Has Stalled: Two Vital Ways to Find Your Authentic Self

October 22, 2019

If you can't bear to keep doing the job you're doing, but you have absolutely no clue what you want to do instead, don't panic. The truth is, the reason you're in this situation is probably that you haven't worked out who you are yet, so you don't know what makes you tick. That's okay, though. You'll get there before long. These ideas will help you keep calm and get your life on track.

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Slow Down
In an ideal world, you would quit your horrible job with your next (ideal) position already lined up. But that's not how it goes for everyone. Sometimes life starts to crumble around you. You might get fired or fall out with your boss. When you simply can't stand your job anymore and your life has ground to a complete halt, don't beat yourself up. This is your brain's way of informing you that you need to stop for a moment and pay attention to what's good for you.

Now's not the time to randomly send out resumes for every job you think you might be qualified for. Now is when you need to slow down, reconnect, and look after yourself. Slowing down looks different for everyone. Whether this means putting your relationship on hold for a while, or booking into an alcohol addiction treatment center, what matters is that you give yourself the space and time to hear yourself think again. Once you've recharged and listened to what your body and mind are trying to tell you, you'll be in a much better position to decide how to spend the rest of your life.

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One of the most fail-safe approaches to finding out more about yourself is to go out into the world and literally get lost. Extracting yourself from your regular context is a brilliant way to experiment with new identities. Why? Because nobody will know who you were before, so you don't have to worry about being judged. This could be extremely freeing for you, and give you a chance to work out who you want to be.

Whether you choose to go cycling in the Alps or taking life slow in Lancaster, leaving your home and encountering friendly strangers is a way to discover out who you really are, and who you want to be when you get home. Not only will travel reshape your sense of your life's boundaries, but the much-needed interruption in your routine could open up your idea of what is possible for your life. Why are you living your life the way you are? What choices got you to this place? Traveling to unknown destinations is a great way to realize that a less conventional lifestyle is yours for the taking.

If you're struggling to understand who you are and what you were made to do, it's best not to rush into anything. Rather, take time for yourself, experiment, and rediscover what makes you happy. If you're at a crossroads in life, these ideas will help you begin to understand what matters to you.

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