Caravan Sonnet: 12 Things to Pray for the Caretakers of Someone with a Chronic Health Condition

10/16/14

12 Things to Pray for the Caretakers of Someone with a Chronic Health Condition

Happy Thursday y'all!! I am so excited to continue this ten part series on Thursdays dealing with topics related to "What to Pray for Someone who is  Struggling with a Chronic Health Condition or who loves Someone struggling with a Chronic Health Condition" (including those with chronic pain)!! In this series (when dealing with the word chronic) I am addressing anyone who has had an illness or pain for more than six months that has affected their life. 

This is a series that I have been praying about and asking the Lord to give great wisdom as I hope it will be helpful for someone! I am often told by very dear and well-meaning people, "I am praying for you" but am also told "I don't really know how to pray for you" or am asked just as often "How can I really pray for you?". While this series won't address every idea of what to pray and is not a "formula" I do hope and pray that it is a good "jumping off point" for you to be praying for those that you love who struggle with chronic health issues and their loved ones. 

*Today 's post is 12 things to Pray for the caretakers of someone with a chronic health condition. While I am approaching this from the idea of this being someones "job" there are many things that could be prayed for caretakers and you will notice that this post replicates many of the things mentioned in the  12 things to Pray for the Parents of a young child with a Chronic Health Condition post and the 12 things to Pray for the Parents of an adult child with a Chronic Health Condition Post. I did feel it was necessary for a separate post for caretakers as there are so many similar needs and yet a caretakers job and position is unique.  While sometimes this role is a familial role, many times this is not and these caretakers become like family. I did feel it was necessary to address some of the differences that could also be prayed for. I hope and pray that all of these posts are an encouragement and offer some practical ideas of what to pray for in these situations.*

** Thank you to  several nurses, grandparents, and volunteers who are in this situation and who graciously shared their hearts about this subject with me.**


1.
Pray for the right words to say.  

Caretakers take on a role of interim nurse (and sometimes doctor) as patients look to them for answers and compassion. Mostly patients are looking for words of encouragement and hope. Pray that these caretakers will have the right words to say to meet each unique situation.

"Now may our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father, who loved us and by His grace gave us eternal comfort and a wonderful hope, comfort you and strengthen you in every good thing you do and say." 
-2 Thessalonians 2:16-17-


2. Pray for patience.  
Caretakers are often asked the same questions again and again and again and again. It can be scary and difficult to understand as a patient what exactly is going on in your body and also scary to know what the future will hold. These fears and questions are often asked repeatedly- even daily and hourly- and after a while this can drain even the best caretaker. Pray for their patience. 

"Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love."
-Ephesians 4:2-


3. Pray for their Strength to meet Each Day. 
A caretakers role is beyond exhausting. Pray for their strength to meet each new challenge and each day.


"O Lord, my might, and my strength, and my refuge in the day of tribulation..."
-Jeremiah 16:19-


4. Pray for their tenderness and compassion.  
The role of a caregiver is one of hourly tenderness and compassion. Pray that they will have the strength to meet these needs each day.


"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves
with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience."
-Colossians 3:12-

5. Pray for their resilience.  
Webster's Dictionary defines resilience as: "the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens... the ability of something to return to its original shape after it has been pulled, stretched, pressed, bent, etc." Caretakers (for whom this is a life calling) need prayers for resilience. These caretakers pour their hearts and souls into their jobs and into helping those who are hurting on a daily basis. It can be extremely hard to "leave their job" at the end of the day. Pray for their resilience. 

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." 
- John 16:33-
6. Pray for their support system.  
The role of a caregiver is a lonely journey. Pray that they will have the support of loved ones who walk with them through their own trials and circumstances as these people give so much to others. 

"God gives grace to the humble... Cast all of your cares upon Him, for He cares for you."

-I Peter 5:5 & 7-

7. Pray for the return of their joy. 

Illness can steal so many different things from people including joy. A caretakers role is difficult, lonely, and sometimes very depressing. Pray that these caretakers will find joy in the Lord despite the pain of their jobs. Pray that they will not be robbed by sorrow only but that the Lord would give them joy as they pour so much out for others. 


"They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness
and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away"
-Isaiah 35:10-

8.  Pray for their Hope. 
A caretakers role can appear hopeless but our God is a God of hope - even in the midst of the most difficult circumstances. Pray that they will not lose hope for their patients, themselves, or the situation. 

"I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living."
-Psalm 27:13-

9.Pray for wisdom
Pray for wisdom for caretakers as they have to often make difficult decisions about how to handle a variety of issues regarding the health of their patients. One caregiver shared with me that "sometimes these decisions are hard to make as you don't want to disrupt a patient and take them to the hospital if its not necessary but you also don't want to have a fragile patient get progressively worse if you don't act correctly" - L- Pray for wisdom for these caretakers.

"Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all of your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
-Proverbs 3:5 & 6-

10. Pray that they will not worry. 
It is so easy for a caretaker to be consumed with worry over their patients and this is not healthy for them nor does it change the situation. As Corrie Ten Boom once said, "Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength." Pray that they will be released from worry as they find peace in the Lord. 

"Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you."
- 2 Thessalonians 3:16-

11. Pray for peace. 
Many times caretakers are arriving on the scene of a "chaotic" household where everyone involved is just trying to do the best that they can. This can create a host of tension, awkwardness, and also unrest. Pray that these caretakers will have peace as they work and thrive in this situation. 

"Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you."

- 2 Thessalonians 3:16-


12. Pray for their hurt (and forgiveness). 
Dealing with those who are in chronic health situations is not always pleasant. Many times these patients are angry over their situations and loss of independence, many times patients are embarrassed by the fact that they need help with the most basic of things (like bathing, etc.) and many times patients act out with hurtful words. This is hard for those that are caretakers. Pray that they caretakers will 

"Do not speak evil of any one, nor be contentious, but yield unselfishly to others
and constantly manifest a forgiving spirit towards all men."

-Titus 3:2-
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I hope these ideas have been helpful y'all! Listed below are all of the posts from the entire series if you are interested in checking them out! 



 12 things to Pray for the Children of Parents with a Chronic Health Condition

Sometimes when you are praying for someone with a chronic health condition you may feel that you are not "seeing" any results or doing anything, but the truth is you are!! God promises that He hears our prayers and He does hear yours! Keep praying for your friends and loved ones!! You are a blessing!!

3 comments:

  1. This was well said. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you so much Ladonna for stopping by and for your sweet words!! :)
      :) Rebecca
      p.s.- I wish I could have replied directly to you but unfortunately you are a "no reply blogger"! I hope to connect with you more in the future!

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  2. Beautiful.... My grandma just broke her hip after having a stroke a few years back. I pray for you every day, please pray for her as well. She is 87 now and has lived a long fulfilling life. Right now my husband & I are stationed in Ft Bragg and she's in California. So all i can do for her is pray for her and send my mom money to help out.

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